What Is Your Coaching Mission With Special Needs?

As a parent-family coach or coach for special needs families, your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to help parents in similar situations find clarity, hope, and greater functionality in their family. With your help and guidance, parents will

 

  1. find their center of gravity,
  2. push past their feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm,
  3. begin restoring regulation and resilience in their children with behavioral disorders through securing the child-parent relationship.

One agency director informed me that she regularly uses my daughter’s case for training of her new case managers and therapists. It does not give a parent the warm fuzzies to hear repeatedly from mental health professionals, whom you look to for help, that your child’s case is the most difficult one they have ever seen. [ctt template="5" link="cjUt1" via="yes" ]This is the child I have. This is the child I love. @parent_coach[/ctt] These sentiments are my personal reflections and a parent, a parenting coach, and a training professional. The sentiments also match the experiences of some of the parents you will coach…parents, who struggle to move forward after facing the reality of one or more diagnoses like ADHD, Autism, Conduct disorder, or Bipolar disorder. The effects on the family are the same. [ctt template="5" link="9Dqc5" via="yes" ]It triggers a parent’s worst nightmares. Concerns, fears, sleepless nights, and the search for answers begin. @parent_coach[/ctt] This is how a parent enters the world of mental health and special needs…a world where terminology is confusing and diagnoses sound like the unending combinations of an alphabet soup. If care is not taken, a parent or teacher might begin to refer to the child by the labels of their diagnosis, and see in the child’s behaviors, both positive and negative, only as symptoms of the same. As months or years of struggle pass, parents don’t differentiate which part of the behavior belongs to their child’s temperament, and which part is a symptom of the diagnosed condition. Amid the onslaught of doctors, neurologists, medical tests, and therapists elucidating the deficits in their child’s development, parents easily lose sight of the child and concentrate on what they see most, the disorganized and dysregulated behavior. The question that brings this home is simple:

Which child do you see…one with special needs or one who is just plain special?

Twice we prepared to send our young daughter  to long-term residential on the strong advice of doctors and psychiatric nurses working with our daughter. The first time she was four years old. The second time she was nearly seven.

Ultimately, we decided it was not something we could live with, nor did we believe it was in the best interest of our daughter.

It is your mission: to understand the unbelievable, heart-wrenching choices some parents face as part of everyday life. We believed we had tried everything to help change our daughter’s behavior. Nearing the edge of hope, we came to the realization that something had to give. It would either be our child, or us parents and we didn’t want it be either. However, this is not the end of the story…merely the beginning. Information from neuropsychology, trauma, attachment, and relationship, the same information you will learn in course, Coaching families with Special Needs,  We discovered choices and options that allowed us to regain personal and family balance and hope for the future. We changed and improved our parenting skills, and developed a positive healthy plan to parent our daughter. [ctt template="5" link="s01ji" via="yes" ]The information was a revelation that allowed a welcome return to my original parenting philosophy with new knowledge and understanding about raising children with love, compassion, empathy, and relationship. @parent_coach[/ctt]

  • Both negative and positive reactions, actions, and attitudes of caregivers significantly impact the child, and hinder or support the development of secure attachment.
  • Environment, temperament, trauma and stress, is relative to reactive behavior, and internal organization and regulation.
  • Parents can learn to manage, diminish, eliminate, and contain even the most severe behavior.

Finally, we had something to DO. We were no longer on the fringe of being powerless to help our daughter. We devoured and assimilated the information, because we had a lot to lose. We refused to cry uncle! We resolved to be committed! We did not hold back! We completely transformed our outlook, honed our philosophy, strategized our plan in every minute detail, and changed our lifestyle. It was not ever easy, but it was easier than what we had been doing and how we had been living for so long. Let me share who the unruly, dysregulated, and unattached little girl became. She became our mission possible.

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Why Do Families Need Coaches?

Training and raising a child could be as challenging as managing a little league baseball team, or a parent may not have had a healthy role model to follow. They may have learned parenting skills through trial and error.

How to Help Formulate Change?

 

A human being’s beliefs about him/herself and the surrounding world have been programmed by eight years of age.

Building on the knowledge that we cannot change anyone else, the goal of parent coaching is to understand and formulate change in the situation, environment, the mindset or context of the event.

 

Too Much Gray?

Sometimes parenting's black-and-white rules are more like gray areas where circumstances, temperaments, and environments need definitions or boundaries. A parenting coach offers a fresh set of eyes, a different view, and the right questions  for clarity.

 

Clarify the Game Rules?

Coaching teaches empowerment and growth through honest examination of values and goals. Also, you clarify or define the rules of the game to make life more pleasant for the entire family. Parenting coaching lessens the conflict and trauma.

 

Culture, Content, or Conflict?

Coaching involves a person's mind, body, emotions and spirit, as well as the social and cultural context of a situation.

The roots of family conflicts  may be in relationships, lowered self-esteem, unhealthy thinking, or academic underachievement.

 

 

 

Is Now Your Time?

If parent coaching is on your mind, then turn your interest into your passion and learn the things you need to know about the profession.

What Are Your Natural Talents?

What you should know is that good parenting coaches come from all the walks of life. Most of them share the same characteristics. Do you have these natural traits or skills?

Your Heart Skills?

  • Compassion: do you love encouraging others and genuinely like people?
  • Passion: do you have a passion for all things parenting?
  • Curiosity: are you constantly curious about children and how to support positive behavior and growth? 

How Is Your Motivation?

  • Good listening ability: are you a good listener and like listening to people who express their challenges?
  • Empathy: Are you comfortable giving them space and time to express their worries.
  • Self-motivation: are you keen to have a career that nourishes from the inside, gives you a purpose, and improves your parenting skills.

Are Your A People Person?

Every parenting coach understands that the child-parent relationship is the major influence on the important aspects of a child’s development. During the coaching conversation, you  help the parent understand and discover constructive ways to address different situations that are causing concern.

Do Your Skills Fit Their Needs?

Assist others to identify their goals and strengths. Help them design action steps to attaining parenting goals by providing resources, information and positive affirmation. Encourage parents to discover and address stressors and challenges that may impact them and their children.

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You are invited to join the Academy for Coaching Parents International that offers training and certification.