Why Your Coaching Mindset and Temperament Matter for Your Success

Can you see the one attribute critical for personal and professional success? What makes coaches so credible with clients and successful in business? Charisma, experience, and expertise are at the top of the list. 

It's true. In every action your take in business or life, your mindset is the determining factor which influences your success. Your coaching mindset and plans require the same foundation, a fresh viewpoint about people, money, and solutions.

Here are examples of how a stressed or unconscious mindset could influence your decisions.

1. You think that helping everybody would be great for business. The solution would be to define your audience by temperament, income level, and initial problems you could solve. By defining a narrow path for your ideal client, you earn more and have more.

2. You set a sliding scale in good-hearted effort to turn away no one that you could help. While deserving and lovely, these clients are less than your ideal when it comes to their ability to pay. Can you meet your budget with a lower-end scale? Yes, possibly with a group program or class. Then, would this client enter into private coaching? Did they value your work and you?

Before you can realize your dreams of four-or-five-figure clients, you have internal work to upgrade. Perhaps these changes in the coaching mindset help you be open minded, focused, compassionate, playful or personal?

If you are a caring, heart-oriented supporter, your coaching strengths are:

  • Being able to re-frame other's doubts,
    Listening to one's story,
    Modeling the best conversation for the positive parenting with your client's kids.

If you are a charismatic influencer, you inspire those who admire you because

  • Your nature is gregarious
    You enjoy people, and they appreciate your friendliness
    You are an excellent example of creativity in action and brainstorming.

If you are an achiever-type coach, your coaching could challenge others

  • To tackle the project they've ignored
    To commit to the exercise routine they need
    To manage finances better
    To plan the product launch sooner than later

If you are the kind of coach who strategizes, your primary strength is solving people's problems This makes you an excellent consultant. In coaching, you can ask the right questions to help a client strategize:

  • What is the result you want?
    What is the first step you would take to get there?
    Can you outline the process?
    What resources will you need?

In coaching, you are often the cheerleader for your clients, and gratitude will be a quality that you want your clients to have.

In coaching, you expend energy being with your client. If you find yourself complaining or fatigued, what will you do to better care for you?

Growing Your Coaching Mindset Confidence

Here's something else top-end coaches have in common: confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk on stage or join a webinar filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening. That is confidence!

When you feel confident, you radiate confidence.
Just like how the person you're talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, your potential clients can sense your mindset. If your mindset is not up to par with those you admire and mimic, you'll struggle to make the sale. Work on your attitude and confidence levels, and watch your income soar.

Find Your Passion Skills Set

Practicality Versus Passion

Your passion skills set is best recalled from enjoyable childhood moments. Do you remember moments in your childhood that felt freeing and fun? One that I remember was bike riding on a Saturday afternoon. The freedom to explore and wind around different neighborhoods cleared my mind and rejuvenated my body. The passion skills set of exploring neighborhoods and enjoying the outdoors is now my walking daily to clear my head and get a fresh perspective on business or a project.

Such childhood memories that we’re passionate about aren’t really the most practical things to do when we grow up and become "responsible." So we often put off when more pressing “responsible” concerns arise like taking the kids to extracurricular activities.

Truths About Passion Skills and Temperaments

If your passion feels obscure or far away, you may not think that the practical skills are worth exploring. However they are, and if you identify with even one of these three reasons, then do explore how to make your passion skills set practical.

  1. Fifty percent of our motivation to pursue a passion stems from our core temperament(s). From temperaments comes what we value, and our innate drive keeps pushing us toward using our strengths and putting talents to use. If you don't use your innate talents, you don't lose them.  Quite the contrary happens. They rise up and get in your face!
  2. Thus you cannot squash your passion. It keeps nudging you, reminding you, trying to motivate you to a course of action.
  3. You will always feel out of sync when not aligned with values and using passion skills set.  The best examples I can provide are the men and women who have pursued the careers of their parents or went for what they "thought" was the right thing, only to be disappointed later.

The solution to staying motivated is to bring your passion skills set into practical living and practical projects.  It is possible to find the practical skills behind your passion. My passion has always been writing, and, eventually in my adult years, I followed these steps to embrace my passion. If I didn't, it hounded me.


“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”
—Nelson Mandela

Writing Short Stories

 Let’ start with the more common one. There are many secret writers, who love to create poetry or prose, but we all know that most authors don’t end up on the best seller list. In fact, most writers never make a dime from their writings. They write and narrate because they feel the calling to do so. They enjoy writing because it motivates them and makes them happy. They are using their core strengths, which is a natural thing to do. The are building a skill set and making it better each time

The Creative Magic Sparks

When someone is following a normal talent or motivation or nudge, a spark of magic happens, and the door of creativity opens. Ideas pour into the writer's mind. A strange character for the novel introduces herself. The ending of the story took a new turn and recreated a new ending.

Like the old writer's joke says: How can I start writing?   Answer: Sit down and start start writing. In the literal sense, when you practice your passion, even for fun and just for yourself, you are honing the creative skills.

 


“It’s your place in the world; it’s your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live.” —Mae Jemison


 

Here are more steps to discover these skills.

  1. Take an objective look at what you do as a writer.

When you sit down to write something, take a moment and jot down all of the things that you’re doing or are about to do. For example:

Create a story

Organize the idea

Create characters

Research/describe the setting of the story

Commit to a project from start to finish

  1. Research the job descriptions of writer. Do a web search for “writer job description.” This will give you some great insight into the skills built through writing.

Make a list of the skills you find in a few of the job.

Go through the list and pull out skills that you feel apply best to you and add them to the first

  1. Research writers’ websites and look at the services they provide to give you some insight into skills you hadn’t considered. Add them to your list.

Now you ave created a real-life practical skills list for a passion that motivates your path. If you decide to take the next steps, they are mix, mingle, and learn.

Writers are often solitary souls who need a writer's group for support. Join one or start one.

 Go to writing events and talk to other writers who love what they do as much as you do.  There are conferences, festivals and networking events for a wide variety of topics.

Find local writing events by doing a web search. Not only will you learn about the skills that you have developed, you might meet some cool new writing friends to support you in following your passion..

You can use these same steps to find passion skills sets in any area, and start using them to follow the natural course of your motivating strengths.

Are you a type of person who is looking to get out of this rat race and work for yourself from home by being your own boss?

 Have a look at our courses and get one step closer to your dream life.

 

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Mindset Matters 2 – Control Mindset and Emotions

Mindset is about how you think and use your mental focus. The term emotions refer to your feelings, and each affects the other. -Emotion intertwines with moodtemperamentpersonalitydisposition, and motivation.

Emotions and Strength

Want strength, then rile up your emotions like Norse warriors of long  ago. The warriors were so called because they created fist of anger before entering the battlefield. They caused adrenaline to pump to prepare to win a war. In this agitated state, they felt  invulnerable and accomplished feats of incredible strength.

Under extreme stress or emotional overwhelm,  your body produces excess amounts of testosterone, adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones increase you heart rate, focus, awareness and muscle tone for the extra strength.

Use Your Emotional Strength for Calm, Collected Focus

Calm, collected focus is about creating and being in a "flow state."

 We also call flow by several descriptors:

  • Being in the zone or fully immersed mental state.
  • Feeling of energized focus
  • Full involvement
  • Complete absorption of in what one does
  • Results that are focused, engaged, maybe losing track of time.

A flow state is a feeling of calm, focused bliss, like in extreme sports when athletes persofrm effortlessly.Or like in music where the melody or the rhythm moves a person to sing or to dance.

No fear. No doubt. No bursts of anger or unwanted emotion.

You do your best work in a flow state. This is when we are happiest.

Do you try to live your life as much as possible. The problem is that you may have anxiety or stay overly  busy with chores and things we need to do. These limitations leave you stressed, anxious or busy and they take you out of the moment. You face a challenge when your body and mind  cannot possibly be in-sync when you are worrying.

Entering flow means being in the moment which not only makes you happy and confident, it also makes you unstoppable. You take control over your emotions.

Taking Control Through Full Wave Breath

So how do you take back control over your emotions?

  1. Check into how you feel, especially if your energy is low,  or you you are distracted or even in a bad mood. 
  2. To change your mood, I suggest Full-Wave Breathing to change your physiology in the literal sense. 
  3. If you learn to breathe correctly (using belly breathing to fill the lower portion of the lungs, then the upper portion). If  you use slow, controlled breaths, then you will be able to lower your heart rate, blood pressure, and calm your entire body.
  4. This will change your parasympathetic tone, taking you out of ‘fight or flight’ and into ‘rest and digest’. Try it the next time you feel overly stressed, overly competitive or worked up after an intense workout – your heart rate will slow and your mind will grow calmer.
  5. For your mental framework, another tool to use is called CBT---‘Cognitive Behavioral Therapy’ and this is a popular form of psychotherapeutic intervention used to treat phobias and other anxiety disorders.Take the intention of CBT strategies to look at the content of your thoughts. The self-talk that you give yourself to work yourself into a panic, or to calm yourself down. If you are thinking things like “I’m worried I might fall off that ledge” then of course you are going to be scared. If you think things like “I’m grateful for my friends” then you will be less likely to feel unhappy with where you are in life. You can use CBT to challenge long-held beliefs and to break negative self-talk habits by challenging your thoughts and testing your hypotheses. This is called ‘cognitive restructuring’.
  6. In the short term, you can use CBT techniques in order to more honestly assess your state of mind and your emotions and to then change the way you feel about a situation.So if you were stressed that you had a deadline you couldn’t meet and it was ruining your evening, then you might use cognitive restructuring in order to assess the thoughts making you stressed and replace them with more productive ones.For example, you might consider:
    • What is the point of being stressed? Will it make matters better?
    • What’s the worst case scenario? Would it really be that bad to tell the boss you can’t finish work on time? Are they expecting too much of you anyway?
    • When was the last time you did this?
    • Are there other ways you could lessen the blow?
    • What would you rather pay attention to right now?

    Combine this with controlled breathing and bring your focus to the thing that is most useful to you right now.

    In the long term, you can use CBT in order to bridge the gap between your thoughts and your physiology. You see, your physiology and your emotions are designed to drive you toward desirable states: sex, food, shelter, love, success, social acceptance.

Your Coaching Mindset Matters Series

What makes coaches so credible with clients and successful in business? Charisma, experience, and expertise are at the top of the list. However, the one attribute which is critical to personal relationships and professional success is mindset.

 

MINDSET: the established set of attitudes a person holds 

 

Mindset - A Way To Foresee and Plan Your Financial and Big Goals

It's true. In every action you take in business or life, your mindset is a pervasive determining factor which influences your success. Your coaching plans require the same foundation, a fresh viewpoint and about people, money, and solutions. 

Here are examples of how a stressed or unconscious mindset could work.

1. You know that helping everybody would be great for business. The solution would be to define your audience by temperament, income level, and initial problems you could solve. This allows you to plan for the right ideal customer and learn how to market to their needs and values. 

2. You set a sliding scale in a good-hearted effort to turn away no one that you could help.

While deserving and lovely, clients are less than your ideal persona when it comes to their ability to pay. You plan for your successful business first, and you create a financial plan to meet your goals, and your planning for your clients' needs.]

  • Will you scale your financial levels  so you earn more than what you need.
  • Can you meet your budget with a lower-end scale? Yes, possibly with a group program or class.
  • Would this client enter into private coaching? Did they value your work and you?

Before you realize your dreams of four-or-five-figure clients, insure that your mindset helps you be open, focused, compassionate, or playful and personal, depending on your temperament.

  • If you are a caring, heart-oriented supporter, your coaching strengths are:
    Being able to reframe other's doubts,
    Listening to one's story,
    Modeling the best conversation for the positive parenting with your client's kids.
  • If you are a charismatic influencer, you inspire those who admire you because
    Your nature is gregarious
    You enjoy people, and they appreciate your friendliness
    You are an excellent example of creativity in action and brainstorming.
  • If you are an achiever-type coach, your coaching could challenge others
    To tackle the project they've ignored
    To commit to the exercise routine they need
    To manage finances better
    To plan the product launch sooner than later
  • If you are the kind of coach who strategizes, your primary strength is solving people's problems This makes you an excellent consultant. In coaching, you can ask the right questions to help a client strategize:

What is the result you want?
What is the first step you would take to get there?
Can you outline the process?
What resources will you need?

In coaching, you are often the cheerleader for your clients, and gratitude will be a quality that you want your customers to have. In coaching, you expend energy being with your customer. If you find yourself complaining or fatigued, what will you do to better care for you?

Growing Your Confidence

What top-end coaches have in common is confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk on stage or join a webinar filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening.

That is confidence!

When you feel confident, you radiate knowing and strengths. Just like how the person you're talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, your potential clients can sense your mindset. 

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How Planning Creates Your Success

If you have heard the phrase that what you can conceive, you can achieve, you may realize that few people truly understand the implication. The paradox of achievement is to adopt success into your life or work endeavors. Yet, how do you know when you have succeeded? Do you know success? Most people do not, and that shocked me. 

 

How Will You Know If You Succeed?

My client Marian used to wait for success to happen.  Sometimes it felt like she was waiting for disaster instead of success to pop up in front of her. Are like Marian:

You set no goals? Or, you set the wrong goals... like if you looked seriously at those goals, you would freak out. Perhaps you dread waking each day because you feel aimless, and yet, you need that paycheck!

If you do not have a game plan, your heart doesn't feel like you put out the effort.  You don't feel like the results are satisfactory. However, you have the power to change those results.

The following three attitudes or mindsets impede success:

  1. Procrastination
  2. Wasting time
  3. Lack of effective time management.

If you think of setting in motion a positive feedback loop for your achievements, you will be more confident each day. Then when life happens, or problems occur, you will feel more power to overcome obstacles.

If you say yes mentally when you face an issue, you empower action. You won't shy away from obstacles. On the contrary, you'll overcome obstacles, feel successful, and hopefully, continue to grow your success rate into positive numbers. Why?

You learn how to achieve. Start with how to be smart. Most successful people use SMART GOALS

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Achievable
  • Realistic
  • Timed

What is your primary goal? This goal can be ambitious or not, depending on whether you can fulfill the steps and make that goal real,

The next action is to break the goal into steps that are realistic, and you have a road map to success! Today you have success. Tomorrow, you feel more successful and happier. The next week, your success loop continues to strengthen.

Strengthen Success Loop

Setting a goal can help you measure your progress. The minute you set a goal you become responsible for attaining it. You now have a place to start from and a completion date. This allows you to see how far you have come and how far you still have to go.

Setting goals helps give you a sense of direction in your life and in your business. Having a clear and specific goal gives you a purpose; you have something to work towards. Who doesn't want to have something to look forward to?

Setting goals defines a purpose for you. This applies to both personal goals. How many times at work have you tried to look busy? But when you have a goal to reach you are automatically busy, as you don't want to be the one to miss the goal.

Setting goals helps you plan out a method for reaching them. If your employer tells you that you have to finish a 20,000 word report by the end of the month, you don't want to miss your deadline. Instead you will focus on how to create a plan so that you make your deadline. If reaching your goal means involving other people to help you then you will figure out a plan to do so.

Setting goals gives you energy and determination. As soon as you set a goal your mind starts to think about them and this gives you increased energy and drive. If you know you have a goal to reach at work, you are more likely to wake up feeling energized and ready to tackle the goal each day. When you don’t have a goal, the thought of going to work each day is without purpose other than to supply you with a paycheck.

Setting goals gives you a sense of pride. Smart employers will know that when they give their employees goals they are filling them with a sense of urgency and pride. Companies that continually set goals for their employees  report that morale is higher and that their productivity levels are high.

 

 

 

 

Successful Parent-Coach Entrepreneur Mindset Traits (1-2-3)

 

Getting Into The Right Mindset

 

1. Practice Careful Optimism

Having a positive mind and positive outlook are crucial to being successful in business. Optimism is th mindset of those who are able to maintain less stress and more happiness.Confidence drives entrepreneurs to move forward. But there is danger in sheer and pure optimism. Excessive optimism can make one overlook risks and potential pitfalls. By all means, avoid pitfalls. While approaching business with an optimistic mindset, you also have to acknowledge that there are risks that you must exercise carefulness.

2. Optimizing Your Focus

If doing a particular task takes you four times as long as somebody else, it might be a simple lack of concentration. Find a mindset or affirmation you like, and repeat it mentally. That is one way to focus your mindset. If sales goals, for example, motivate you, then put pictures of what you will purchase with the money around your office. That is visual stimulation for your optimal mindset.

Are you an achiever and motivated by accomplishing tasks, than use a pie chart to illustrate the work that needs to be done. Then, at set intervals erase pieces of the pie until it is empty. It might just be a matter of distractions. Don’t play music while you work. Turn the ringer off the phones. Don’t sit in front a window if you are distracted easily. Working smarter, not harder, is aboutpeak performance and peak focus. When you are working at your peak, you get more done in less time. Leaving you time to do more of what you love.

3. Practice Healthy Pessimism

People will tell you that negative thinking will get you no where. Yes, depression does breed fear, which can stop you from taking the necessary steps to be successful. But there is use in having a little bit of healthy pessimism. Having healthy pessimism means that you are astute enough to recognize the pitfalls and risks involved in your venture. However, you are not pessimistic enough so as to allow those insights to stop you. Instead, you are driven to come up with solutions to every risk and difficulty that you encounter.That is a winning mindset!