A Family Consultant Coaches Communication Skills

How we parents communicate and demonstrate conversations with our children speaks louder than any intention or goal. A family coach or parenting consultant trains parents and family members in communications skills. How are your communications skills?

Not Like This

"Caron, speak up." My father screamed. Other statements he used were....

"Quit mumbling. Stop mumbling. You are driving me nuts."

"STOP the mumbling. 

My father was a man with a hearing loss, probably acquired from his stent of service in the second world war. He boasted how he was lucky to be alive despite the shard of metal in his skull. He drank a lot which often resulted in being a happy drunk until he couldn't hear what one of his children said. Then, his short fuse resulted in the not-so-nice screaming bout.

The story of my father demonstrates how truly important it is to establish two-way communication within families. Two-way communication implies two people are speaking, but also listening, as well as respecting opinions and solutions. Two-way communication suggests that listening receives as much respect as speaking. 

Communication styles are characterized by the way people want to appear and be heard:

  • People want to look (or attempt to appear) a certain way when communicating. For example, it was necessary to my father that he raised his voice and corrected me because he was the "boss." 

 Unclear, poor communication leaves family members unhappy and lonely. If your communication skills are lacking, then a family member may be miserable and feel alone. The following consultant's tips can help you improve the opportunities for being heard, speaking your truth, and inviting conversations with your children. 

Ten Right-Way Communication Skills for the Home 

Fostering a more favorable environment in your home includes offering opportunities for discussions and space for disagreements, Try these communication strategies

1. Be open and honest with one another. While being honest, be kind when saying something that may cause a family member any distress. Children are more receptive to calm voices, kind words, and tone of voice, but then, isn't everyone? 

2. Have some fun each day. Family fun doesn't have to take up a lot of time. It can be as simple as having ice cream cones or playing with your pets. Simple tasks or rituals make a significant difference in how the communication flows in a home, mainly when people are engaged in functions together. 

3. Set priorities for chores that everyone must do. Agree on who does what chores and when they should do them, so everyone participates in age-appropriate tasks. Write them on a chore chart ahead of time to prevent arguments! What worked best for my family was to set aside 30 minutes when all family members cleaned a room, the least of which was owning and removing each one's paraphernalia.

4. Keep privacy boundaries. Adults and kids both need their privacy on a regular basis. Ensure that the kids understand the importance of respecting this priority. A parent consultant can speak with your children and help them define their personal boundaries. 

5. Have a family meeting each week to discuss family issues. Find a time in which everyone in the family can attend. Hold the meeting every week, preferably at the same time. In the meeting, let each family member speak their mind, even if it's a complaint. Solve challenges, run ideas by each other, and make plans for the future together.

6. Allow free time. Everyone needs some time to do things on their own or with their friends.  Meeting this need will help each family member feel more satisfied, fulfilled, and open to communicating.

7. Spend holidays and special events together as a family. Strengthen your family bond with special occasion family traditions. Let the kids share their ideas about the occasion, too.

8. Establish a weekly family night. Make time just to enjoy being together. Watch movies, play games, or have story time. Encourage laughter and open communication.

9. Learn to negotiate. Learning to compromise and come up with win-win solutions for everyone involved is a priceless skill that will serve your family members well throughout their lives.

10. Say, "I love you." The best consultant I worked with in a school setting always repeated: "Each day, remember to show your spouse and kids how much you love them. Share loving, encouraging words and hugs freely throughout the day - even if it's a hard day, especially if it's a hard day!"

A happy home promotes a supportive place to live, play, and look forward to the future! A comfortable home welcomes your loved ones when they return from work or other outings. They can leave the stresses of the outside world behind as they enter the warm sanctuary of home. Practice these communication strategies to create an inviting environment in your home because you shape the foundation for your child's ability to get along in life. 

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Following-Up with Prospective Clients

The factors that contribute to a successful business include integrity, reliability, consistency, and honesty. These are just a few of the traits that successful business owners present on a daily basis. However, following up with a client is more important than your best traits. Without follow-up, you will not have a business.

The importance of follow-up in your business is the one action you can take that will undeniably demonstrate whether you  that you care about clients.  The interpersonal connection goes a long way towards helping people feel comfortable buying from you with trust. A client, who feels secure, will  refer you to others that may be interested in your products or services.

Your business integrity relies on your follow-up to show your customers that, as a business entity, you practice what you preach. You will not leave them undecided, questioning, or wondering. You will be there to answer questions and address concerns.

Consistent follow up represents stability to your clients. They know your business, and they know what to expect from you. When you practice consistent follow up, customers trust you. The result is more sales and a stronger bottom line. Nobody likes surprises, especially when dealing with a business, so your consistency and reliability are the keys to trust.

Trust Is The Key to Sales

Being willing and able to effectively address your client’s concerns through follow-up positively proves to them that you are an authority in your market.

By being that authority – the woman or man who knows everything about their niche and is willing to share that information to interested parties – proves to your buyers that they can trust you.

Consistent and reliable follow-up skills are a necessity for any entrepreneur or business owner. If you are lacking in this skill, seriously consider taking a course or skill-building class, or your business is likely to be short-lived.

The good news is that follow-up is a skill that can be learned, honed, and perfected. Your business will benefit greatly, and you’ll feel the satisfaction personally and business-wise. Your self-esteem and confidence as an entrepreneur  grow as you experience the satisfaction of serving your customers.