Clarify Life Coaching

            Recently, this coaching topic has been the target of a lot of jokes and demeaning cartoons.  Many people have no realistic notion of what it is all about.  Life coaching is more than assisting people to set and attain personal or professional goals.

As a life coach, my definition of life coaching is: catalyzing in others personally-desired changes they will make to create a lifestyle of their dreams…one that will work better for them.

In order to effectively do my job described above, I regularly make inquiries about the client.  There is a difference between “questions” and “inquiries.”  The former can be answered immediately after they are asked.

Inquiries however, are designed to be thought about, deliberated upon and regularly reviewed by…

Some of the best inquiries a qualified life coach can make are described below.

What would you like to gain by working with me as your life coach?  In order to assist a client to attain their desired outcomes, it becomes important in  life coaching to know what those outcomes are

How can you modify your thinking and behavior so that you increase the probability those outcomes occur?  One definition of “insanity” is engaging in the same behavior over and over while thinking the outcomes will be different.

What new thinking habits, emotional habits, behavioral habits or social habits are you willing to develop that will increase the likelihood your lifestyle will be different three months (six months, a year, 10 years) from now?  If you want to learn and practice new habits, you need to practice them regularly for at least 3-4 weeks in order to make them “unconscious.”

What can you think, do or say today that will give you practice at strengthening those chosen new habits that replace the old ones?  You can never “unlearn” the habits that created your current lifestyle.  You can only learn and strengthen new habits that will replace engaging in the old ones! Th.is is the heart of life coaching.

What are some new choices and decisions you can make that will move you toward creating and enjoying the outcomes/consequences you want to incorporate into your new lifestyle?  Despite making mistakes and engaging in unskilled behaviors, you might as well risk making new choices that you will enjoy.

With what kind of people will you surround yourself to be supportive of you as you create this new lifestyle?  No one ever accomplishes important lifestyle changes without the support of others…even if such support is indirect or out of your awareness.

What are your current strengths, talents and abilities you can use or strengthen that will assist you in attaining your desired outcomes?  If you are still alive, you already have some personal abilities that are useful in creating a modified or new lifestyle.

What new habits will result in:

A lower stress level;

A new sense of accomplishment;

A positive redefinition of negative experiences;

An ability to focus internally and lessen your “reactivity;”

An increase in your awareness of the consequences of your choices;

A lessening of your fears and anxieties;

Developing beneficial and enjoyable social and interpersonal relationships;

Developing your happiness and enjoyment about being alive.

If you would like to explore the above inquiries, you just might want to receive assistance from a qualified and experienced life coach…despite all the jokes you may have heard.

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Dr. Thomas is a licensed clinical psychologist and certified life coach.  He is on the faculty of the International University of Professional Studies.  He is the co-author of the book, “Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance Your Practice…and Your Life” (W. W. Norton, 2005).  He leads seminars/workshops on: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy; Life Coaching; Business Coaching; Creativity; Academic Excellence; Creating High-Quality Relationships; Effective Communication; Effective Leadership and many others.

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