The Family Coach Solves the Puzzles

My Family Coach didn't have cliche, immediate answers to my questions about managing a toddler's outbursts. Instead, she asked me more questions about values and viewpoints. When we finished the discussion, i realized I was in complete harmony with my parenting values. Her viewpoint allowed me to talk through my fears of parenting too strictly.

Every day in your families, you may operate from the perspective of doing the best you know how to do in dealing with the challenges and opportunities. That is so true for everyone, even your coach, who probably came to her profession because of similar experiences. Would you choose to work with a coach If you knew you could and would be...

  1. More effective in relationships,
  2. More productive with your time.
  3. Better focused on your goals
  4. More successful in communication

If you knew you could accomplish your goal, then you would alter your behavior to correspond with these insights. Your family coach supports your breakthrough and speeds up your learning curve.

You Are Limited By What You Do and Don't Know

The only access you ordinarily have to change and to influence your family comes from these two areas:

1. What you know

2. What you don’t know

In efforts to achieve more or be a better person, you might learn to do something better, or try a different way you heard or read about. You try again a strategy that worked for you before. This is all good. The problem is that it doesn’t stick. The small increments of progress are just that….small, yet they can be powerful if they give you a new skill, relevant understanding, and a next step.

That is where the Family Coach enters the scenario. Few of us can make the changes personally we desire without help. We need feedback, another viewpoint, advice, a listener, a person who questions how we will get there and what will we have accomplished in our parenting.

Here is the success secret that few parents know:

Extraordinary growth comes from outside the area called “you don’t know” – your blind spots.

Imagine the big bubble right outside of your reach filled with a vast array of unusual, new ideas and advice you seek. However, you could be blind to the giant bubble of answers.

Very few family coaches will tell you what to do. In one sense, that rips off your self-discovery process for yourself and all the family members.

Instead, coaches listen, feel, observe, and ask to help you go to the inner bubble of personal knowing ---THAT is your unknown, unseen wisdom waiting to rise to the top.

You wouldn’t let your child climb on to a bike he doesn’t know how to ride without helping him balance, pedal and practice until he has a feel for the bike.

You stay balanced with a family coach until you feel the thrill of success just like your child careens downhill on his bike with hands in the air, “Wheeeeee.”

That is the thrill of accomplishment. Your child felt joyful at self-discovery,  As a parent, you go through self-discovery too.

 

Get Real! Is Money Your Blind Spot?

 Are you the type of personality who admits that you might have a blind spot when it comes to money?  Don't ignore this topic, as it could could cost you clients and more income!

Bias or blind spots prevent you from seeing income issues clearly, so your potentially biggest money issue is one you don’t even see.

The signs and symptoms that you have a blind spot are...

1. You don’t seem to make any progress.  For example, if you are always short of money, want to work on it, then you just work harder. The effort does not equal the return, and you cannot see that your effort garners zilch.

2. You want to understand why.  You attend seminars, take classes, and read about why you have issues with money. You follow instructions, write out the steps and have all the best intentions. Yet, taking action seems overwhelming.

3. Your intuitive sense nags at you. You absolutely know that something is amiss. So you search, read, journal, trying to be self-aware and discover the block insider of you. Unfortunately, blind spots are patterns you cannot see. Dig as you may, your cognition is programmed to looks everywhere, but you will not see it. This is why people help with the "identification" process first. Then do the inner work to move through it.

4. You tell people that you know the answer or tell a white lie about it. You don't want to lose face in front of friends. You attended the seminar and you read the book, and the energy of the group uplifted you. EUREKA! You got a glimpse of the blind spot. Now you know. In your innocence, you believe that knowing the blind spot will change that pattern burned into your memory. Unfortunately, that won't happen.

5. You defend yourself.  If you find yourself defending your income or money issues, ask yourself why. Why you have to defend against it brings to the surface the emotional patterns associated with money for you.  Your emotional patterns are not the events of the everyday world like your client didn't pay you yet, or you are transferring money from one account to another. Your defensive behavior is often an illogical excuse like "How can she mortgage her house for that program." Or "I wouldn't take money from my family for me?"

6.You really value what you defend! You must value money very highly if you defend it. What it represents for you would safety, security, creativity, success, and....you actually value it very highly, but don’t realize how important money is to you personally and professionally. Th blind spot is below the awareness level is you are reacting to it. Voila! This is the answer to the blind spot question: what am I defending? why do I need to defend it? What do I value so highly that I defend it?

Please don't ignore the blind spot issues. Being aware and noticing...granting self-permission to see and know...even saying, I am willing to see...brings unstoppable confidence and earning capacity!

 

 

 

 

 

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