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Clarify Life Coaching
Recently, this coaching topic has been the target of a lot of jokes and demeaning cartoons. Many people have no realistic notion of what it is all about. Life coaching is more than assisting people to set and attain personal or professional goals.
As a life coach, my definition of life coaching is: catalyzing in others personally-desired changes they will make to create a lifestyle of their dreams...one that will work better for them.
In order to effectively do my job described above, I regularly make inquiries about the client. There is a difference between "questions" and "inquiries." The former can be answered immediately after they are asked.
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Some of the best inquiries a qualified life coach can make are described below.
What would you like to gain by working with me as your life coach? In order to assist a client to attain their desired outcomes, it becomes important in life coaching to know what those outcomes are
How can you modify your thinking and behavior so that you increase the probability those outcomes occur? One definition of "insanity" is engaging in the same behavior over and over while thinking the outcomes will be different.
What new thinking habits, emotional habits, behavioral habits or social habits are you willing to develop that will increase the likelihood your lifestyle will be different three months (six months, a year, 10 years) from now? If you want to learn and practice new habits, you need to practice them regularly for at least 3-4 weeks in order to make them "unconscious."
What can you think, do or say today that will give you practice at strengthening those chosen new habits that replace the old ones? You can never "unlearn" the habits that created your current lifestyle. You can only learn and strengthen new habits that will replace engaging in the old ones! Th.is is the heart of life coaching.
What are some new choices and decisions you can make that will move you toward creating and enjoying the outcomes/consequences you want to incorporate into your new lifestyle? ? Despite making mistakes and engaging in unskilled behaviors, you might as well risk making new choices that you will enjoy.
With what kind of people will you surround yourself to be supportive of you as you create this new lifestyle? No one ever accomplishes important lifestyle changes without the support of others...even if such support is indirect or out of your awareness.
What are your current strengths, talents and abilities you can use or strengthen that will assist you in attaining your desired outcomes? If you are still alive, you already have some personal abilities that are useful in creating a modified or new lifestyle.
What new habits will result in:
A lower stress level;
A new sense of accomplishment;
A positive redefinition of negative experiences;
An ability to focus internally and lessen your "reactivity;"
An increase in your awareness of the consequences of your choices;
A lessening of your fears and anxieties;
Developing beneficial and enjoyable social and interpersonal relationships;
Developing your happiness and enjoyment about being alive.
If you would like to explore the above inquiries, you just might want to receive assistance from a qualified and experienced life coach...despite all the jokes you may have heard.
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Dr. Thomas is a licensed clinical psychologist and certified life coach. He is on the faculty of the International University of Professional Studies. He is the co-author of the book, "Total Life Coaching: 50+ Life Lessons, Skills, and Techniques to Enhance Your Practice...and Your Life" (W. W. Norton, 2005). He leads seminars/workshops on: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy; Life Coaching; Business Coaching; Creativity; Academic Excellence; Creating High-Quality Relationships; Effective Communication; Effective Leadership and many others.
- Lloyd J. Thomas, Ph.D.
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Storytelling is a great way to connect with your audience. Professional speakers use it all the time, but it works just as well online. Take a look at five ways you can start to tell stories that will help you get closer to your readers, build a relationship with them and earn their trust.
On Your Blog
One of the easiest ways to get started is on your blog. Don't be afraid to get a little personal. Share what's going on in your life, or write stories from days gone by as they apply to your niche and your content.
- Why did I start my business? Share the story of how you wanted to be paid for your natural strengths like listening or planning.
- What unique office or service can I offer? She the story of your passion for helping others?
For example, if your brand and your online business are about personal finance and reducing consumer debt, share how you were able to pay off $15,000 in credit card debt in under two years. Talk about the sacrifices you and your family made or how it has made your life easier today .
- What interesting discovery did you make about yourself?
- What made you want to close your business, and you had to struggle to know the next step?.
Via Social Media
Social media is another great place for storytelling. Get social, be personal and don't be afraid to share what's going on with you and your life.When I started this blog over ten years ago, all article were business oriented. Today, you don't have to mind those rules. Personalization is practically required for you to stand out, stand up, be seen and flourish.
Going back to our previous example, you could post how much fun your family is having at a free concert in a local park. The tool here is to ASK...either ask your followers to share their best free entertainment tips or point them to a resource on your site where you share your top 5 tips to do on the weekend without spending a dime. The pint is ask for a response of some kind.
In Your Email Messages
Start with your core message and your CTA (Call to action) for your email. Then come up with a story you can tell them that goes along with the action you want your readers to take.
- Do you want them to click through to content on your website?
- Are you making them an offer for a new video course?
- Use the story to get them interested in the topic or show them how learning what you're teaching in your class can either help them or hurt them (if they don't know what's in the course).
- You can also use storytelling in an email to open a dialog with your audience. Open up and get a little personal and they will follow suit. It's a great way to get to know your target audience better.
On Your Sales Pages
Stories are a great way to hook your readers and get them to read about the product you have to offer. Turn to storytelling to come up with a strong headline and intro for your sales pages and sales videos.
In Your Products
Last but not least, let's talk about using storytelling in your digital products. It doesn't matter if you're writing eBooks, creating coaching programs, or recording video courses, stories are a great way to illustrate your point. They make it easier for your students, clients, and customers to understand concepts and make them more memorable.