How Planning Creates Your Success

If you have heard the phrase that what you can conceive, you can achieve, you may realize that few people truly understand the implication. The paradox of achievement is to adopt success into your life or work endeavors. Yet, how do you know when you have succeeded? Do you know success? Most people do not, and that shocked me. 

 

How Will You Know If You Succeed?

My client Marian used to wait for success to happen.  Sometimes it felt like she was waiting for disaster instead of success to pop up in front of her. Are like Marian:

You set no goals? Or, you set the wrong goals… like if you looked seriously at those goals, you would freak out. Perhaps you dread waking each day because you feel aimless, and yet, you need that paycheck!

If you do not have a game plan, your heart doesn’t feel like you put out the effort.  You don’t feel like the results are satisfactory. However, you have the power to change those results.

The following three attitudes or mindsets impede success:

  1. Procrastination
  2. Wasting time
  3. Lack of effective time management.

If you think of setting in motion a positive feedback loop for your achievements, you will be more confident each day. Then when life happens, or problems occur, you will feel more power to overcome obstacles.

If you say yes mentally when you face an issue, you empower action. You won’t shy away from obstacles. On the contrary, you’ll overcome obstacles, feel successful, and hopefully, continue to grow your success rate into positive numbers. Why?

You learn how to achieve. Start with how to be smart. Most successful people use SMART GOALS

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Achievable
  • Realistic
  • Timed

What is your primary goal? This goal can be ambitious or not, depending on whether you can fulfill the steps and make that goal real,

The next action is to break the goal into steps that are realistic, and you have a road map to success! Today you have success. Tomorrow, you feel more successful and happier. The next week, your success loop continues to strengthen.

Strengthen Success Loop

Setting a goal can help you measure your progress. The minute you set a goal you become responsible for attaining it. You now have a place to start from and a completion date. This allows you to see how far you have come and how far you still have to go.

Setting goals helps give you a sense of direction in your life and in your business. Having a clear and specific goal gives you a purpose; you have something to work towards. Who doesn’t want to have something to look forward to?

Setting goals defines a purpose for you. This applies to both personal goals. How many times at work have you tried to look busy? But when you have a goal to reach you are automatically busy, as you don’t want to be the one to miss the goal.

Setting goals helps you plan out a method for reaching them. If your employer tells you that you have to finish a 20,000 word report by the end of the month, you don’t want to miss your deadline. Instead you will focus on how to create a plan so that you make your deadline. If reaching your goal means involving other people to help you then you will figure out a plan to do so.

Setting goals gives you energy and determination. As soon as you set a goal your mind starts to think about them and this gives you increased energy and drive. If you know you have a goal to reach at work, you are more likely to wake up feeling energized and ready to tackle the goal each day. When you don’t have a goal, the thought of going to work each day is without purpose other than to supply you with a paycheck.

Setting goals gives you a sense of pride. Smart employers will know that when they give their employees goals they are filling them with a sense of urgency and pride. Companies that continually set goals for their employees  report that morale is higher and that their productivity levels are high.

 

 

 

 

Nine Tips On Understanding Your Teen

Nine Tips On Understanding Your Teen

Your child becomes a teenager and parenting can suddenly turn into a frustrating experience. You are understanding your child from a different viewpoint in the circle of life. You could observe:

  • That the harmony is gone in your relationship.
  • You find yourself in disagreement with your child.
  • You feel the so-called generation gap grew.

Yes, your child is changing, but the basic temperament is still there. Understanding your teen is still the key to having a harmonious relationship. These ten tips for understanding your teen and dealing with the new brain wiring will help you stay centered as a heartwise® parent.

While you used to pal around with your child when he or she was younger, you now have to set boundaries between your role as a parent or a friend.

1.Help stabilize the changes. 

At this stage, you are primarily the circumspect parent who will listen, negotiate boundaries and behaviors, and stand steadfast in your expectations. Doing so helps stabilize all the changes the adolescent experiences. Friends can be found, but good parenting is a rare commodity these days.

2. Become Involved

Understanding your child as a teen means becoming involved while your schedule and life remain just as busy. Being involved is finding the time to be with them. Being involved means knowing where they are at all times and establishing communication protocols.

Even more important are the conversations about life your teen appreciates. These conversations open opportunities to understanding your child, as their thoughts and feelings change each day, disappear, and flare again: Listen to the what your child tells you about their life events. You will glean their thoughts and feelings so that they will be at ease coming to you if they are in trouble.

3. Train Teens in Accountability SkillsUnderstanding your teen

You as the parent, are responsible for preparing your child for adult life for as long as they live under your roof.
If they want something, exert the effort to achieve it or get it.
Being responsible for communication, earned expenses, and tasks is now their domain.
Money is not the important asset. Rather, qualities about handling money are what matters.
As a parent, you can help here by providing their allowance for completed jobs, but they must do their part. You are training them to survive in a competitive world.

4. Listen To Them

The teen years are crucial years for understanding your child. Teens expect you to hear them and decipher what they need or want. You may feel like judgments arise surrounding teen activities, finances, and studies. Don’t worry because 99% of the job is listening to them and understanding what they want.

5. Explain Your Viewpoint

By letting teens know the reasons for any decisions you make, you empower them to make their choices. Offering them a reason, even if it considered lame by your teen, helps them review their personal choices. For example
Concern for their safety is why you establish a mutually agreed on curfew.
Your need to know where they are if they leave one place for a new destination requires a phone call to know they are safe and capable of holding their own among peers.

6. Tune In

Understanding your child occurs when you are
listening to their kind of music
keeping tabs on what activities they are involved in
Knowing the names of their friends

7. Be Flexible

Setting agreed-upon rules with your teen is always healthy. However, exceptions to rules always occur. Whether you are flexible enough to bend the rules requires discussion with your teen. Lay the groundwork for those instances when rules can be adjusted.

8. Share Your Interest With Your Child

Sharing interests with your child means you better understand them You learn together and share your experiences. You need to stay connected with your child through those teen arguments.

9. Keep Talking Even If Your Teen Is Not Listening

Teenagers do listen to their parents. While they may argue with you, your advice is well-entrenched in their minds. After all, you did raise them. Although they pretend passivity with what you say, the truth is that your advice has influence.

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