Why Your Coaching Mindset and Temperament Matter for Your Success

Can you see the one attribute critical for personal and professional success? What makes coaches so credible with clients and successful in business? Charisma, experience, and expertise are at the top of the list. 

It's true. In every action your take in business or life, your mindset is the determining factor which influences your success. Your coaching mindset and plans require the same foundation, a fresh viewpoint about people, money, and solutions.

Here are examples of how a stressed or unconscious mindset could influence your decisions.

1. You think that helping everybody would be great for business. The solution would be to define your audience by temperament, income level, and initial problems you could solve. By defining a narrow path for your ideal client, you earn more and have more.

2. You set a sliding scale in good-hearted effort to turn away no one that you could help. While deserving and lovely, these clients are less than your ideal when it comes to their ability to pay. Can you meet your budget with a lower-end scale? Yes, possibly with a group program or class. Then, would this client enter into private coaching? Did they value your work and you?

Before you can realize your dreams of four-or-five-figure clients, you have internal work to upgrade. Perhaps these changes in the coaching mindset help you be open minded, focused, compassionate, playful or personal?

If you are a caring, heart-oriented supporter, your coaching strengths are:

  • Being able to re-frame other's doubts,
    Listening to one's story,
    Modeling the best conversation for the positive parenting with your client's kids.

If you are a charismatic influencer, you inspire those who admire you because

  • Your nature is gregarious
    You enjoy people, and they appreciate your friendliness
    You are an excellent example of creativity in action and brainstorming.

If you are an achiever-type coach, your coaching could challenge others

  • To tackle the project they've ignored
    To commit to the exercise routine they need
    To manage finances better
    To plan the product launch sooner than later

If you are the kind of coach who strategizes, your primary strength is solving people's problems This makes you an excellent consultant. In coaching, you can ask the right questions to help a client strategize:

  • What is the result you want?
    What is the first step you would take to get there?
    Can you outline the process?
    What resources will you need?

In coaching, you are often the cheerleader for your clients, and gratitude will be a quality that you want your clients to have.

In coaching, you expend energy being with your client. If you find yourself complaining or fatigued, what will you do to better care for you?

Growing Your Coaching Mindset Confidence

Here's something else top-end coaches have in common: confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk on stage or join a webinar filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening. That is confidence!!

When you feel confident, you radiate confidence.
Just like how the person you're talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, your potential clients can sense your mindset. If your mindset is not up to par with those you admire and mimic, you'll struggle to make the sale. Work on your attitude and confidence levels, and watch your income soar.

3. Who Is A Certified Parent Coach?

 A Parent Coach Is

Like a mentor who wears different hats – advocate, teacher, listener, questioner. Yet, the certified parent coach has a primary role  as supporter and connector for parents who want assistance, help, expertise, empowerment, or confidence. The mottos of the Academy for Coaching Parents International also serve as the first two goals of parenting coaching

  1. to empower and sustain loving relationships

     2. to make a difference.

The first thing a coach does is establish a mutual respectful relationship with the client, who may be a parent, grandparent, caregiver or anyone who has hired a coach to help them better parent or serve as a more effective guardian or caregiver to children.

Parent coaches assist, help, inform, inspire, and educate.

They provide clarity, reflection, and reality checks for parental illusion, and support a parent's intuition.

They are responsive and responsible as they provide frameworks and structures for conversations around sensitive issues.

A parent coach may serve as a coach for a parent’s personal confidence or is involved with family relationships and parent/child issues.  A parent coach is a mentor, not a doctor, therapist, or counselor.  A certified parenting coach is a friendly or warm-hearted person a parent can call with everyday problems.  A coach provides encouragement and expertise, coaching and challenges.

Thriving As A Person And A Coach

Most of those who go into fields like coaching and psychology understand that to be a successful person, you have to have success in your personal life as well as business.  Success is not always about money, but also about finding a balance between family and business.

When you work out of your house, if you don’t set perimeters around your business life, your work can take over your home and family life. Whether you are single and childless or married with children, carve out a personal life for yourself beyond coaching in order to have a life of balance and joy. If you overload yourself, you will not get satisfaction from either one.

Do you want your life to look like this?

You’re going to your son’s soccer game at four, but you need to be home by five-thirty to take a client call, so you have to arrange for your son’s ride home. You can’t concentrate on the soccer game anyway because you need to prepare for your client’s call. You have a splitting headache because you feel torn between the game and your client. Later, your family goes out to supper because there’s not enough time to cook. After dinner, you go grocery shopping.  BY nine p.m., you are exhausted.

You actually hate driving up to your own house because it is like driving up to a pile of unfinished work – home is never a place to relax anymore. You are not making much money because you are going out to restaurants and hiring babysitters all the time. You took up coaching because it was work you could do at home when your kids were little, but instead you are constantly yelling at them to leave you alone, be quiet while you’re on the phone, and stay away from your room. Your spouse is upset and puzzled by your constant irritability.

That doesn’t sound like much fun does it? It can be someone’s reality and it is the number one reason why home businesses can fail. So don’t let it become your reality. Let’s devise a better vision!

You love working at home from the convenience of your home office, which is really a comfortable den, but one corner is yours and holds your computer, your dedicated business line, and your desk. You keep pictures, candles, music CDs and plants around your corner to feed your comfort.

You schedule your client calls at one time during the day for a four-hour block of time when the kids are in school, with dad, in day care, or otherwise occupied. You hold this time sacred so that you can be present with your clients. They pay you $100 per hour for your time, and you believe in service: listening, suggesting, confronting, sensing. You are finally being paid for doing what you love: networking, talking, sharing heart, educating and helping people lead better lives.

You love people, and people love you. This shows up in the mutual respect you and your clients have for each other and in client referrals. You have more clients than you schedule, and put their names on a waiting list. The waiting list represents clients who would wait for the time to see you, but you are content right now. You have the income you desire and the time you want to be with yourself and your family.

You will grow your business when you are ready!

Put A Fence Around Your Personal Life

Before you take your first client, you have to design the perimeters of your business. There are practical steps that will put boundaries between your personal life your business.

  • First, have a separate phone line for your busine
  • Second, make a separate room in your house for your busine Your room should be relatively soundproof and away from the family living area.
  • If possible, enclose your space and have a door you can shut. That closed door will be a signal to your family not to interrupt you.

Some people have solved the “home business” problem by building a workspace that is on their property but separate from their residence. Charles Schultz, creator of the Charley Brown cartoons, used to walk about twenty feet from his home to his studio every day.  There are homes with separate guesthouses or “Mother-in-law” quarters that convert into great home offices, provide the privacy, and give the atmosphere needed for work.

Some people simply cannot work at home because of all the interruptions.  In this case, it may be best to rent office space. Many coaches rent office space for only a few hours a week to accommodate clients who prefer meeting in person. Or, you may be a coach who provides in-home visits, or you may work from phone calls only.

 

Are you ready to take your passion for having an impact on this world to the next level?

By Being a Parent Coach, you can follow your passion and be financially successful at the same time. Take a minute and look at our coaching certifications

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Dr. Caron Goode

Dr. Caron Goode

Founder--Academy for Coaching Parents International

Your Coaching Mindset Matters Series

What makes coaches so credible with clients and successful in business? Charisma, experience, and expertise are at the top of the list. However, the one attribute which is critical to personal relationships and professional success is mindset.

 

MINDSET: the established set of attitudes a person holds 

 

Mindset - A Way To Foresee and Plan Your Financial and Big Goals

It's true. In every action you take in business or life, your mindset is a pervasive determining factor which influences your success. Your coaching plans require the same foundation, a fresh viewpoint and about people, money, and solutions. 

Here are examples of how a stressed or unconscious mindset could work.

1. You know that helping everybody would be great for business. The solution would be to define your audience by temperament, income level, and initial problems you could solve. This allows you to plan for the right ideal customer and learn how to market to their needs and values. 

2. You set a sliding scale in a good-hearted effort to turn away no one that you could help.

While deserving and lovely, clients are less than your ideal persona when it comes to their ability to pay. You plan for your successful business first, and you create a financial plan to meet your goals, and your planning for your clients' needs.]

  • Will you scale your financial levels  so you earn more than what you need.
  • Can you meet your budget with a lower-end scale? Yes, possibly with a group program or class.
  • Would this client enter into private coaching? Did they value your work and you?

Before you realize your dreams of four-or-five-figure clients, insure that your mindset helps you be open, focused, compassionate, or playful and personal, depending on your temperament.

  • If you are a caring, heart-oriented supporter, your coaching strengths are:
    Being able to reframe other's doubts,
    Listening to one's story,
    Modeling the best conversation for the positive parenting with your client's kids.
  • If you are a charismatic influencer, you inspire those who admire you because
    Your nature is gregarious
    You enjoy people, and they appreciate your friendliness
    You are an excellent example of creativity in action and brainstorming.
  • If you are an achiever-type coach, your coaching could challenge others
    To tackle the project they've ignored
    To commit to the exercise routine they need
    To manage finances better
    To plan the product launch sooner than later
  • If you are the kind of coach who strategizes, your primary strength is solving people's problems This makes you an excellent consultant. In coaching, you can ask the right questions to help a client strategize:

What is the result you want?
What is the first step you would take to get there?
Can you outline the process?
What resources will you need?

In coaching, you are often the cheerleader for your clients, and gratitude will be a quality that you want your customers to have. In coaching, you expend energy being with your customer. If you find yourself complaining or fatigued, what will you do to better care for you?

Growing Your Confidence

What top-end coaches have in common is confidence. They believe in what they do. They believe in their ability to help others achieve the same thing. They walk on stage or join a webinar filled with the knowledge that what they are about to say will change the lives of those who are listening.

That is confidence!

When you feel confident, you radiate knowing and strengths. Just like how the person you're talking to on the phone can hear a smile in your voice, your potential clients can sense your mindset. 

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Tool-Focus on Ideal Clients 4

How does a certified parenting coach hold the right mindset for the ideal clients they envision?  Mindset: Focus on your client, not on you.

How You Think and Envision

When a new author writes a book, the author is filled with his or her personal story — it’s drama, it’s inspiration, and the need to have others learn from their experiences.

However, if the author wants to sell the book, he or she needs to know what the reader wants to read and ensure the book addresses that.

If a coach wants to sell services, the services or product must fulfill the client’s needs. The fulfillment is essential to demonstrate in your story, writing, advertising, and offerings. All of your marketing materials need to be client focused:

  1. About them — someone to listen to their story, not hear about yours
  2. About solving one of their issues — your book, story or brochure will tell how…
  3. About finding support — every word you write and every visual clue you use in a logo, color, design and copy reflects how you support them.

The New York Times best-read nonfiction books tend to be cookbooks, biographies of famous people, and how-to books on weight loss. If people are buying these books...

  1. Why are they doing so?
  2. What does a client want from a coach that is like a cookbook?
  3. A recipe, a formula, something that appeals to their appetites.

Remember who you are marketing to:

  1. A doer wants an achievement.
  2. A thinker wants the list of steps.
  3. The supporter who wants whatever is most practical, appealing and adaptable.
  4. The creative influencer wants to share the beauty with others and convince them of its benefits.

What does a coaching client want that is like a biography?

  1. The emotional connection to you.
  2. Small pieces of your life experience connect with their hearts and mind.

 What does a coaching client crave?

  1. the answers
  2. the steps
  3. the hope
  4. the promise
  5. the guarantee
  6. the formula… …to their dilemma and solutions or strategies for the issues they deal with every day - the issues that overwhelm them or make them tired and edgy.

 

Successful coaches respond to the needs of their targeted clients just like an author who is writing a book for them. You answer their needs, provide the soul food they crave, and develop a heart connection. Then, you’ve got it! !

 

Tool–Defining Your Ideal Client 1

Why would a parent coach or a family coach take particular care in defining the type of person who would be their best customer or client?

Influencing Factors

1: Relationship research suggests that if we are relatively healthy in mindset and emotionality, we attract people, who are similar to us in Emotional patterns, Cultural preferences, Levels of empathy

2. Also, core temperaments influence whom we meet with and coach. Are you the personality type that can be authentic with all four temperaments? Can you work with the types of person who

  • Make excuses
  • Cancel appointments
  • Want to talk about it, and not do much about it
  • Becomes angry at you rather than the issue

3. Likewise, our values influence the decisions we make about our business and ideal clients.
This values of your ideal client affects everything you do from setting fees to determining your coaching programs, which will offer solutions to their problems and value to living an inspired life.

4. Spend your time on the most valuable task to make your business successful by defining your ideal client.

  • Age group
  • Income
  • Family status
  • Education
  • Lifestyle goals
  • Location

To make this list real, a clever trick of successful authors is to write a story. Authors write about their ideal reader, and you write about the client who is most compatible with you. You give her a name, a couple of kids, a husband who just doesn't get it, and a load of student loans. You know quite a bit about her, you think.
If you stop there, you may be missing a huge piece of the puzzle—and losing out on the best clients because of temperament incompatibility.

Temperament Style Mismatch

The topic is rarely considered in the "ideal client" equation, and it's arguably the most important part: core temperament style.

If you're bossy, sarcastic, fun-loving and loud, then a quiet, middle-aged mom who spends her time volunteering at the church is probably not a good fit for you. WHY?

  • Natural exuberance may overwhelm the person.
  • If a client needs to start with small steps, and you whiz to the finish line, you've left the client in the dust.
  • Either he will be uncomfortable with your style, or you'll be miserable trying to reign in your natural exuberance.

Drive Determines Success

Check in with your client about their drive to success.

Adaptive Supporter type clients are slower to take the initiative, although they always meet their goal.  An achiever may be internally motivated but could move too fast and fail to plan adequately for meeting his goals. Both clients can be frustrating to coach unless you understand the core temperaments and what motivates each person to succeed.

Review your current and past coaching clients, and you'll identify the disposition patterns of those you attract. Review:
What characteristics did your most enjoyable client bring to the table?
What time frame do you expect a customer to meet their goals?
Which client behavioral patterns are those you do not want to deal with?
How do you handle your disappointment?
How do you celebrate your client's successes?

Compare your new potential clients to this ideal profile, and you'll never again sign on with a less-than-perfect client.