Ten Tips to Deal with Changes in Your Life

 Consultants and coaches supporting people through life changes can use these tips.

1. Acceptance
The largest and most necessary step to change is acceptance. Life events always change, and expecting and accepting that premise helps us cope more readily. My friend Louisa received a diagnosis of cancer.  Through the support of her family and friends, she coped well during the treatment sessions. All of us, who supported her healing journey, were grateful that she was not embarrassed to ask for help. She gladly allowed our small acts of kindness to ease her path. Louisa got over feeling guilty when asking for help, and I got over reminding her that I was there to support her. 

2. Learn to Shift Out of Your Comfort Zone
Does it seem that changes occur as soon as you are comfortable or set in a routine? Most likely, you don't expect a major change  if your guard is down.   

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3. Talk About Your Feelings Towards Change
If you tend to let things build up inside, choose now to stop that habit. You may be a person who doesn't like to share personal feelings. Or you might be embarrassed to share them.  If the changes are at work, for instance, consider talking to your manager about the impact of those changes.  Present your concerns in a professional manner and stick to purposeful breathing which helps you feeling angry or overwhelmed. 

4. Try to Turn the Change in Your Favor
The phrase turn lemons into lemonade has widely been overused. However, it’s hard to deny the meaning of it and the impact of that meaning. If you are dealing with change, in one form or another, see what angles you can use to make it work to your benefit.

5. Keep Changes You Can Control to a Minimum
If you try to enact too many changes at once, it may overwhelm the people who are affected by them. People need time to absorb those changes and incorporate them into their lives.  Sometimes, the changes you put into place may be out of your control. However,  if you do have control over them, introducing them slowly over time helps those who affected to adjust and accept more easily. 

6. Join Support Groups
If you have been affected by changes and needed to talk to another person, then you know that we need each others' support. This is so true when death or a long-term illness occurs. Are the types of changes you experience similar to others' experiences. Would a support group help in adjusting? 

7. Trust Your Instincts
You may be forced into situations or decisions that go against what you believe.. If you find yourself in such a situation, it’s best to go with your gut or trust your instincts. If the change doesn’t feel right and you have no power to counter it, try to remove yourself from the situation. I have counseled others in tough situations, and solutions varied from changing jobs to taking time from work and seeking another person to help you clarify your vision and feelings. If you need help, seek it out. 

8. Change Can Lead to Unforeseen Opportunities
The whole point of being able to deal with change effectively is acceptance. When you start to focus on change being something that is good, opportunities have a way of finding you. These opportunities may not have presented themselves had the changes not occurred.

What Is Parent Coaching?

   "I'll tell you about Parent Coaching. You have to have a plan and it has to be a plan that works.  You should not settle for the mediocre in life.  Coaching helps you set goals.  I collaborate with my clients.  I am on their side.  As a coach, I help and strategize with my clients so they can achieve their goals.  Coaching is about personal evolution, vision, what’s next, what’s now, and moving forward. It’s about having standards, not settling for the mediocre in life, but looking and feeling your best.  ~ Annemarie Brown~

Parent Coaching

Parent Coaching focuses on listening, empathizing, asking questions and sharing the love. Imagine how relieved frustrated parents will be to have someone listen and clarify the problem they feel.
The feeling is very personal, very individual. Some parents want to "teach" their children. Other want to "discipline" their children. These words become confusing and don't realize...
How empowered they are or how powerful they appear to their children.
People can turn their problems around.  They can be whatever they want.  They can have whatever they want. Coaching is about that process.  You help them, and it is an incredible job.
Coaches review a client’s strengths and focus on them. The medical/psychological establishment focuses on problems and pathology.
We look at wellness and not what is broken.  If a coach finds an actual pathology, the coach refers that person to a psychologist or other appropriate specialist.  Troubled persons with long-standing problems may not think rationally, and that is why coaches refer them to appropriate professionals for their healing. 
In coaching, the model is that the client is whole and wants to achieve goals. The parent is open to advice, and discussion, and looking to the future, not the past.
The clients who employ coaches are healthy and happy people who want to improve their lives. They want to go from good parents to better parents.
Are you ready to help families going through a difficult time?
Or help people be competent and make parents happy?
Then enroll in the parent-family coaching program and receive two certificates for coaching parents and for coaching families. 

3. Who Is A Certified Parent Coach?

 A Parent Coach Is

Like a mentor who wears different hats – advocate, teacher, listener, questioner. Yet, the certified parent coach has a primary role  as supporter and connector for parents who want assistance, help, expertise, empowerment, or confidence. The mottos of the Academy for Coaching Parents International also serve as the first two goals of parenting coaching

  1. to empower and sustain loving relationships

     2. to make a difference.

The first thing a coach does is establish a mutual respectful relationship with the client, who may be a parent, grandparent, caregiver or anyone who has hired a coach to help them better parent or serve as a more effective guardian or caregiver to children.

Parent coaches assist, help, inform, inspire, and educate.

They provide clarity, reflection, and reality checks for parental illusion, and support a parent's intuition.

They are responsive and responsible as they provide frameworks and structures for conversations around sensitive issues.

A parent coach may serve as a coach for a parent’s personal confidence or is involved with family relationships and parent/child issues.  A parent coach is a mentor, not a doctor, therapist, or counselor.  A certified parenting coach is a friendly or warm-hearted person a parent can call with everyday problems.  A coach provides encouragement and expertise, coaching and challenges.

Thriving As A Person And A Coach

Most of those who go into fields like coaching and psychology understand that to be a successful person, you have to have success in your personal life as well as business.  Success is not always about money, but also about finding a balance between family and business.

When you work out of your house, if you don’t set perimeters around your business life, your work can take over your home and family life. Whether you are single and childless or married with children, carve out a personal life for yourself beyond coaching in order to have a life of balance and joy. If you overload yourself, you will not get satisfaction from either one.

Do you want your life to look like this?

You’re going to your son’s soccer game at four, but you need to be home by five-thirty to take a client call, so you have to arrange for your son’s ride home. You can’t concentrate on the soccer game anyway because you need to prepare for your client’s call. You have a splitting headache because you feel torn between the game and your client. Later, your family goes out to supper because there’s not enough time to cook. After dinner, you go grocery shopping.  BY nine p.m., you are exhausted.

You actually hate driving up to your own house because it is like driving up to a pile of unfinished work – home is never a place to relax anymore. You are not making much money because you are going out to restaurants and hiring babysitters all the time. You took up coaching because it was work you could do at home when your kids were little, but instead you are constantly yelling at them to leave you alone, be quiet while you’re on the phone, and stay away from your room. Your spouse is upset and puzzled by your constant irritability.

That doesn’t sound like much fun does it? It can be someone’s reality and it is the number one reason why home businesses can fail. So don’t let it become your reality. Let’s devise a better vision!

You love working at home from the convenience of your home office, which is really a comfortable den, but one corner is yours and holds your computer, your dedicated business line, and your desk. You keep pictures, candles, music CDs and plants around your corner to feed your comfort.

You schedule your client calls at one time during the day for a four-hour block of time when the kids are in school, with dad, in day care, or otherwise occupied. You hold this time sacred so that you can be present with your clients. They pay you $100 per hour for your time, and you believe in service: listening, suggesting, confronting, sensing. You are finally being paid for doing what you love: networking, talking, sharing heart, educating and helping people lead better lives.

You love people, and people love you. This shows up in the mutual respect you and your clients have for each other and in client referrals. You have more clients than you schedule, and put their names on a waiting list. The waiting list represents clients who would wait for the time to see you, but you are content right now. You have the income you desire and the time you want to be with yourself and your family.

You will grow your business when you are ready!

Put A Fence Around Your Personal Life

Before you take your first client, you have to design the perimeters of your business. There are practical steps that will put boundaries between your personal life your business.

  • First, have a separate phone line for your busine
  • Second, make a separate room in your house for your busine Your room should be relatively soundproof and away from the family living area.
  • If possible, enclose your space and have a door you can shut. That closed door will be a signal to your family not to interrupt you.

Some people have solved the “home business” problem by building a workspace that is on their property but separate from their residence. Charles Schultz, creator of the Charley Brown cartoons, used to walk about twenty feet from his home to his studio every day.  There are homes with separate guesthouses or “Mother-in-law” quarters that convert into great home offices, provide the privacy, and give the atmosphere needed for work.

Some people simply cannot work at home because of all the interruptions.  In this case, it may be best to rent office space. Many coaches rent office space for only a few hours a week to accommodate clients who prefer meeting in person. Or, you may be a coach who provides in-home visits, or you may work from phone calls only.

 

Are you ready to take your passion for having an impact on this world to the next level?

By Being a Parent Coach, you can follow your passion and be financially successful at the same time. Take a minute and look at our coaching certifications

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Dr. Caron Goode

Dr. Caron Goode

Founder--Academy for Coaching Parents International

Imagine Your Future and Build Your Brand To Get There

I went against the advice of my mentors. As a  family coach or parenting consultant, you build your brand by deciding who you want to be as a business person. Can you envision the person you will be in the future and make that your goal, while following your own heart?

In the process of developing a personal brand, most entrepreneurs set goals around time, or earnings, or marketing methods. Their profile or persona is the first step.

Step One

Decide who you want to be. When I founded the Academy for Coaching Parents International, both of my mentors told me up front to hire an assistant to handle email, answer queries, and keep up with the enrolled students. They explained the purpose for this was to give me a lot of free time. Wow! The advice was not what I expected.

 In deciding who I wanted to be, I chose this description: A professional mentor with heart, who supports ACPI students through compassionate guidance and coaching to succeed in their business goals in becoming a certified parenting coach. Not only am I personally involved in my business, but I also answer phone calls, emails, and make personal queries to each student and support them through weekly phone calls.

When you build your brand, the best choice is to be yourself. There is only one, unique you, and the vision of who you are in business refers to who you want to be in the future.

  • Where do you want to live?
  • How do you see yourself?
  • What do you see yourself doing?
  • What are your goals?

Step Two

Dream about different futures to choose from the possibilities.  Try on potentialities to see which ones fit best. It's a necessary process. Decide through the dreaming to build your brand that's right for you and take affirmative steps to turn that dream into reality. The process involves a certain amount of decisionmaking, some mental toughness and the ability to look at your goals realistically.

  • You see, there is a difference between a dream and a goal.
  • The dream is tentative. The goal is firm.
  • The dream is a possibility. The goal should be a probability.
  • The dream is subject to change. The goal is not.

These are important differences. They are also differences that many people don't recognize or, even worse, choose to ignore. Take a cold, hard look at the dream that you've selected to be your goal. Look at the ins and outs. Don't avoid looking at the bad. If you don't weigh the good points against the bad, you're going to be in for either a rude awakening when you reach your goal or disappointment when you don't.

Step Three

When you set firm goals as the final step, you have accomplished the first three steps to build your brand.

  1. Envision possibilities or your role or who you will be as a business owner.
  2. Choose your persona and write it out for reference when you lose focus.
  3. Accept that you are the brand and build your brand products and services on that foundation.

The confidence of knowing where you're going translates into personal stability. Your personal security, in turn, translates into higher acceptance of your brand over time. When your customers trust you, they also believe in your brand. After all, you are your brand.

Coaches’ Income Streams

Coaches's income streams takes planning premium content in varied formats and specific marketing sources to insure that you meet your income goals.

Setting Realistic Goals for Multiple Income Streams

Coaches are interpersonal helpers and need emotional and financial security. Most coaches I've met are not financially savvy people, but willing to learn and gain the financial planning skills.

So I ask, "How much do you want to earn?"

"Well," the coach responds,"I guess it depends on what clients are willing to pay?"

"Wrong. It depends on what you want to earn? Let's start planning what you want to earn."

To make an annual income of $40, 000 you would spend 18 hours a week working one-to-one with clients.

Add five hours a week to consistently market your coaching practice, and you have 23 hours total of your work week.

Most likely you would have no more hours available if you have other people in your life who need you. You also have to consider your fatigue factor, burnout rate, or your ability to be inspiring all the time.

At ACPI, we encourage you to be more creative and find more fun ways to engage your clients. All of the ways you engage your clients in exchange for their investments are multiple income streams.  Stop trading your valuable time for money and see below this sample of multiple income streams.

plan income 

Go For The Larger Income Model From the Beginning

Why we at ACPI suggest that you began with larger income goals is to inspire your ideas and to motivate you to create a true business vision. Then through planning your Relationship Coaching business financial goals, you can initiate a six-month or twelve month plan to offer ready made courses, group coaching, training in emotional competence skills, as well as information products. ACPI provides these courses for you.

Many coaches start by pricing their services lower to attract more clients. Then when they are busy and their time is scheduled, they have no choice but to increase those hourly fees and risk losing those clients who are paying already. Why not focus on clients who have the ability to pay for your services up front and recognize the value you provide.

Few coaches, who come from helping professions to ACPI, have set income goals and actually brainstormed on how to achieve that.

The multiple  income streams below have a targeted number of clients drawn to what you offer in a variety of courses, teleseminars, private coaching, or live trainings. You can see that even with minimal training, your ability to earn income can include any activities you like to provide.

Otherwise without offering what you are passionate about, you are more likely to burn out and be overwhelmed. So see what is possible below. Use this sample income stream chart to plan your own Relationship Coaching journey.

Planning Income Example

Income Stream

Frequency

Monthly Income

6 Month income projection

One hour coaching for 8-weeks One hour @ $85.00/4 weeks x 8 clients $2720 $16,320
Course 1: Core Temperament Communication 4-week course and group coaching for 20 people @ $150 $3000 Offer 2x in 6 months $6000
Course 2: Emotional Skills in Relationships 4-week course and coaching support for couples.10 couples @ $500 each $5000 Offer once every 6 months. $5000
One-day Live Training in Relationships For 10 couples @ $897 per couple.  $8970 Offer once every 6 months $8970
Teleseminars  2 teleseminars per month @ $20.00--40 people per month $4800 $4800
Total     $41,090.00